FRIENDS!

25 Jan

Being here again reminded me of my NaBloPoMo days. For fun, I headed to the website to check out January’s theme…

by Jolante (flickr)

FRIENDS.

It made me smile as that is exactly what I am grateful for this week. Anytime an emotional obstacle rears its head, it’s your friends that pick you up, distract you and keep you going when you get the sudden urge to stop. I want to say that this “reminded me who my friends are,” but I already know who they are πŸ™‚

Someone said to me yesterday, “now you have time to focus on you and your girlfriends.” Instinctively I started to agree, but stopped myself. “Not really, that was never missing,” I said.

The reclamation of my time and focus usually brings me comfort after a break-up, providing a positive in a dark time. But for the first time I never really gave up my time. It was a combination of not losing focus on myself and my friends, and him never pushing me for it.

Acknowledging this took my positivity down a few notches — this was something that is important to me, and I had just lost it. I had lost someone who offered me something that I needed in coupledom as well as a crutch for moving on.

I am grateful to have had that, even if just for a short time.

It also made me realize that I don’t feel the urge to turn to him for comfort. Having the person you relied on to ease you for so long suddenly disappear from your life tends to be one of the most difficult aspects of breaking up. But I haven’t felt that urge…

I guess my friends are just that good!

THANK YOU ladies!!

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5 Responses to “FRIENDS!”

  1. marcellolavella 26 January 2011 at 00:09 #

    I just joined this blog site, and it’s funny that i randmoly bumbed into your blog, because i just recently went through a break up and i guess you are lucky for having good supprotive friends around you unlike me. I’m a gay guy in a new country moved because of myself but as well because of him and to actually break up with me after a month in a new strange place is very tough. Oh well, he was my first too!
    I’m in the period of getting-over him and 6 days of crying and being alone with no one around to comfert me, i finally said enough and lets start over again.

    • MorningEggs 26 January 2011 at 16:44 #

      I’m so sorry you went through that. To end things after you made such a huge leap. That’s such a painful situation.

      You have to think of it positively though. You came here for a reason. He may have been the reason that you moved but deep down there is something more. You just haven’t discovered yet what is waiting for you in your new country. Enough is enough… and you have a whole new place to explore. Get out and learn the city and the people in it πŸ™‚ There is never anything sad or negative about new beginnings.

      • marcellolavella 26 January 2011 at 23:06 #

        You are absolutely right! and i’m doing excatly that right now and trying to meet new people. Thank you for the encorugment and hope the best for you too. Is it hard to date again after a breakup?
        Because I don’t know, i feel like it’s kinda hard, i mean, I already have a date waiting for me tonight, but it’s just hanging-out kinda thing and you know that feeling, the feeling of blah and screw men feeling…. ugh why things are sometimes so complicated! lol

      • MorningEggs 27 January 2011 at 15:10 #

        At first, sure. It’s supposed to be hard of the relationship meant something. I think often when people start dating right away they are suppressing the feelings they had. When you connect with someone and then break up its hard to move on easily.

        I hope you went on the date. Maybe it’ll just tell you that you aren’t ready, but either way, it’s for a reason. Good luck!

  2. marcellolavella 30 January 2011 at 02:18 #

    Okay, so my date stood me up, and the funny thing is i laughed about it because its typical when guys don’t get what they want = s.e.x!!
    You know it’s strange that i discovered recently that, all this time he was in contact with his ex and not only that, he was just a big lie and a mess. To be honest, i never connected with him in anything or anyway, and looking back, i just say to myself “What the HECK was wrong with me!!!” Lol
    I finally deleted him completely out of my life, and its strange that seeing how low he is by trying to hurt my feelings with his childish act make me not miss him at all. I mean at all, is that strange?

    Oh well…sorry to bother you with my story, but i’m having fun exchanging thoughts and comments. I’m a newbie on here, how can be friends? or add strangers on here? How to look for a dating blog or something related to what i’m looking for here??

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